This is such an awesome story from one of my HypnoBirthing moms. She had some special circumstances arise toward the end of her pregnancy but, thanks to HypnoBirthing, she was able to make educated decisions and stick with her Birth Preferences as much as possible. At the end of the story is a great reminder that the number of centimeters you are dilated is just that – a number! It really tells you nothing about how much time you have left to labor. And her story is such a good reminder that, even when your birthing takes a different turn than expected, you can still use your HypnoBirthing tools and have an amazing birth experience. Thank you so much to Danielle for allowing me to share her story!
We had a girl!!!! She was born January 6th at 9:47 PM, 4.1 lbs and 18 inches long at 36 weeks and 6 days.
I have been itching to tell you our story! It’s a long… but amazing one!! Haha
A little back story… at my doctor appt my doc noticed my belly was measuring smaller than my last visit. So she sent me for some stress testing and an ultrasound to be sure everything was ok.
My first stress test was ok. But my follow up ultrasound showed that my placenta was failing. Baby went from 38th percentile to the 3rd percentile and it seemed my placenta was not giving baby the nutrients she needed to grow. So they recommend i get induced no later than 37-38 weeks. During my second stress test I was having mild contractions every 10 minutes and babies heart rate was dropping too low for comfort. So they sent me to labor and delivery for further testing. Which resulted in the same result. They did not feel comfortable sending me home in case I went into labor and it was too hard on her. So we were admitted on January 3rd to continue monitoring until our induction.
So fast forward to Thursday, the 5th… at 8:30pm we began to initiate our birth plan given the new circumstances. I let my doctor and nurses know that I really wanted a vaginal delivery as long as the baby could take it. And that I was open to the possibility of a ceasarean if medically necessary. So we started with a Foley bulb. The Foley bulb made me contract a little bit and the bulb fell out about 4.5 hours later. The doctor said i did extremely well with the insertion of the bulb. That most women complain of pain. I was just focusing on my breathing. I think I have hypno to thank for that. I just breathed into my relaxation methods.
During this time we walked around the hospital and just chatted. Surges began but still felt like braxton hicks. So I remained relaxed naturally. We had yoga music playing on Pandora in the room with the lights dimmed to keep a peaceful setting.
I did want to mention that as each new nurse came on duty they would go over the doctor ‘s notes and said “ceasarean”… but I would gently remind them that a ceasarean was worst case scenario. I would feel myself start to get frustrated so lasha would remind me to just breathe and focus on a healthy, vaginal delivery.
The bulb came out that same evening and i was dialated to a stretchy 3cm, they started a super mild drip of pitocin to see if my body would catch on… surges were coming but irregularly. And still very tolerable. Although they weren’t hurting, I would play my rainbow relaxation track and affirmations to stay focused on relaxation and positive and healthy visualizations while rotating my hips on a birthing ball. That birthing ball was everything to me. I would rotate from birthing ball to walking, visualizing my cervix softening and opening and my flower opening 🙂 I drank lots of water and continued to eat light snacks throughout my entire labor.
Late that first night, the doctor checked my cervix. She said my cervix was still high and I was at 4 cm. She recommended I break my water. And if it stressed the baby then they could insert a catheter to put water back in. I refused that option. And expressed that if it wasnt medically necessary, i didnt want to rush things, be restricted to the bed. That was not my birth plan. Intuition said it wasn’t a good idea. That it would cause a c section. I told her we would rather wait longer and lasha supported that decision.
Non stop envisions of a healthy placenta. Non stop envisions of a strong and healthy baby. I continued to envision our umbilical cord doing just enough to support her thru delivery. I focused on these affirmations and visions quite deeply while closing my eyes and breathing with each surge no matter how mild they were, i used each surge as a moment to speak to my body. Lasha was offering light touch massage and remind me to relax my jaw. He was a great coach!
By the next morning they raised the pitocin slightly because my body still hadn’t develop regularly spaced surges. Up to this point, baby’s heart was tolerating this mild and gentle labor… lasha and I had decided to keep my oxygen mask on because the contractions were intensifying. We noticed the oxygen helped baby so even though the nurse or doctors didn’t ask us to, our intuition told us to… and a few of the nurses said we made a great instinctive decision.
By late afternoon i still hadn’t dialated more but i was at a -2 so they recommended i broke my water. I agreed to do so at this point, knowing she was closer down the birth path. I trusted my body. I actually told my body that i trusted it. He he
At this point surges picked up in intensity. Now my comfort scale went to a 6 out of 10 that I still could totally handle. And they were 4 minutes apart.
We are now at Friday night at 930pm. they checked me and I was only dilated to a stretchy 5cm. My blood pressure kept raising and was at almost 180. Eek! But my surges were at a 7/8 in intensity and 3 minutes apart.
As i was breathing thru them on my ball, the doctor had a serious conversation with me to ask me what my plan was because it was becoming time to get baby out for my health. Mind you each surge is increasing in intensity which was confusing for me because if I was only at 5cm I still had a ways to go.
They said they recommend we up the pitocin to the max to get the baby out and that I have to get an i.v. of magnesium for the next 24 hours to keep me from seizuring from my elevated blood pressure. They said the magnesium will make me feel like crap. Probably nauseous, migraines and flush. Major flu like symptoms. But it’s necessary for my health.
So in between more intense surges and hearing I was only dialated to 5… with 5 more to go i started second guessing myself. I actually heard myself say in my head that I couldn’t do it. I told the doctors that I am thinking of an epidural because the surges are becoming more intense with each surge and then the magnesium on top of it worried me if I could take it. I told them I would think about it and that I had to have a bowel movement. So they left and said they would come back.
I got off my birthing ball and went to the bathroom. At this point the surges were even more intense. I had to dig deep to breathe. After I had that bowel movement, I stood up and the most intense surge came on. I was holding onto the wall trying to breathe thru it. but i have to admit… it was very difficult. Lasha came in the bathroom and I told him that I think I had to pee. But I wasn’t sure. Maybe poop again hahaha I sat down and nothing happened but more pressure down there. …… then…. it started burning!!!!!!!! I told him to get the nurse as another surge came on. He was confused. The nurse came in confused. I told her something was happening and I wasn’t sure what it was hahahaha I froze. My breathing was so difficult to keep. And I knew it. This was my most challenging moment with the whole process. I told her I think it was the baby. Somehow she got me off the toilet to walk to the bed. She told me to get on the bed as she called the doctors in and I literally asked her “how?!” Hahaha I saw myself squatting right there. And honestly… I should have! But somehow I laid on the bed. Doctors came in and said I was fully dialated with disbelief and asked me if I remembered how to push. I told them “no!” Hahahahahaha girls, I totally froze up! Hahahaha I pulled my thighs towards me. They asked me for 3 good pushes. I could hear their voices like background music. I was already J breathing. Baby was crowned in 2- J breathes. Then the doctor put her hand on the babies head and told me to stop pushing because nicu wasn’t here. Wth?!?!?!?!?! After what felt like forever… another surge came on, my body said “F-U!” Hahaha she came out!!!
No perineal tears and my baby was here. It all happened SO fast! Everyone was astonished with what happened. Us too! Lasha didn’t even have time to get video or pictures hahahaha it was an intense last 10 minutes there. All the calm was thrown out the window hahahahahaa but I will say… my body came thru. Baby came thru. My placenta came thru! Everything and everyone did it! We did it!!!!!!!!!!!!! We are so blessed, happy and proud!!!! And although we had a 5 days stay in the hospital after birth… we are healthy… and home and she couldn’t be more perfect! Even with her bitty size! She only spent one night in the nicu and has been with mommy ever since.
I am so grateful for hypnobirthing! I am so grateful for tapping into my intuition and trusting my body no matter how many scary scenarios the doctors voiced… I wouldn’t allow it to cloud my mind. I think that was more difficult than the surges! Dealijg with the doctors!! Our hypnobirthing practices had my back thru all of that!!! Up until those last 10 minutes I was barely in any pain at all… and at the end when I began to doubt myself… that’s because they said I was only dialated to 5cm and I had no idea what was going on haha… because we were at the end. But even after that… I am still proud of myself. Because we did it! Thanks to hypnobirthing! We did it!!!
Girls! With every surge truly envision your cervix opening. Study those pics our our anatomy. With the more intense surges, I saw my cervix thinning and coming up and breathed with it to push baby down. With every surge! And when you are at the end and may feel like you are losing it… keep it! Stay strong! Because your baby is coming to you!!!!!
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